Hello Dawnettes,
I'm currently in a loving relationship and that's all on that subject.
As you know, I keep my family and friends business off of the internet. Not because of scrutiny, but because there are some things the public will never be privy to if I can help it.
However, love is the subject of this blog. Love is the common denominator and all that comes with loving another human.
There will be a vast of different opinions on what love is and how to keep a loving healthy relationship going. Let's face it folks. Everyone has boundaries and past baggage they bring to the relationship. As a writer, I've seen hundreds of quotes on rules of love, toxic relationships, narcissism and when is it time to let go and walk away.
I believe innately people want to be loved. Almost everyone at some level. What that looks like is in the eye of the beholder. I can only give you my interpretation and at the end of the day what that looks like.
Hey, I'm not an expert by any means. But I can tell you that the kind of love that I'm receiving from my partner and from my kids (both biological & bonus) is immeasurable. I can tell you the love has given me purpose and it's also made me self reflect. In a way I haven't in a while. I can also with certainty that if I hadn't been introduced to my partner, my life would be in a completely different set of circumstances.
Love can awaken, heighten senses, give you strength and make your feel invincible. It can also bring you to your knees, make you grovel, question your life choices ( a saying I love teasing my bonus son with.)
I've had to make some difficult choices throughout my life. I'm sure I will have to make a few more mistakes before I'm done. However, I'm comforted by the thought that I have someone by my side who reassures me that this "choice" has been in my best interest.
And let me add one more note...
You're partner is not your therapist, dump site, fixer of past wounds, replacement of unrequited love. Let me explain.
You need to come fully prepared for love. Fully healed and with receptive arms. Waiting to experience a new love and a level of commitment from her/his perspective. You have a love language all your own. You will need to learn what theirs is. You should have learned from past mistakes and know exactly what you don't want in the next one.
AND LISTEN to what this future partner has to say. Sometimes, believe or not they don't always want an answer. Just an ear and a shoulder. No comparisons. Experience this part of your journey with new eyes and an open mind.
At this time of the year, I sit back and reflect. I must say, I have laughed so much this year. I've doubted myself as well. I've also taken stock and I know what I need to work on in 2019. Thankfully, I have made it this far and hopefully I will be around for another 365 days.
Happy Holidays Fam and Have Prosperous New Year. Thank you for staying on this journey and I look forward to sharing my thoughts and events of 2019.
Currently listening to-"All For Your Love by The Good Girls"
One of my top ten fav songs of all-time. The beginning of this song kills it!
I DO NOT OWN THE RIGHTS TO THIS SONG!*
